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“My sista, where are you from?”, Yaye asked me with her beautiful toothy grin as I perused fabric at her market shop. As a Black woman whenever I travel, especially to Africa, this tends to be a complicated question to answer. “I’m from America, and my family, we’re from Ayiti”, I say in broken English, French/Kreyol, and Wolof. “Oh Ayiti!”, she exclaims proudly, “Pale Francais?”. I giggle nervously and shake my head. See, I was able to get by in Senegal with 3 broken languages, rizz (charisma as the Gen Z-ers say it), a wish, and a prayer. I felt so affirmed in my interactions with the town locals, a voice whispering in my ear, “You are meant to be here” on loop. What I came away with was more grounding than I could have imagined, more questions than answers, but something to guide me into this new year.

Hey Fam,

Thanks for sticking with me through the hiatus of this newsletter. It’s taken me some time to put into words what I experienced and learned during my time in Senegal. As some of you have been following my journey on social media, I recently returned from my much anticipated Wombs of Wata (WoW) birthkeeper workshop in Senegal. An opportunity that so many of you gifted, donated, and contributed to. I am forever grateful.


With the assistance of local community members and birth keepers, the Wombs of Wata workshop was developed and facilitated by head birthkeeper. Joyell Arvella. Let me explain my understanding of what a birthkeeper is. Birthkeepers choose a life where they support people during the full lifespan of the uterus. From prepubescence, menstruation, fertility, pregnancy, menopause, and through various uterine related illnesses. Pretty dope huh? This has also made me rethink how I define the work that I do, and what kind of work I could be expanding to. We also participated in some amazing introspective sessions facilitated by thee Shaconna Haley, MA, CHD. An integral part of being a birthkeeper is to know yourself. What moves you, what triggers you, stalls your movements, who are you?


To start, we stayed in the charming coastal town of Somone, in a beautiful pink villa, a 5 minute walk to the beach. Yall know that I was on that beach EVERYDAY. One way or another, I found myself at the water. We started each morning with a moving meditation, setting intentions for the day. On our first full day, we had a sacred water blessing ceremony at the ocean. Asking permission to be there, calling on Mami Wata to help us release things from our current lives and things that we might unintentionally be holding onto from generations past. Afterwards, we all gathered to discuss our birth stories and how that connected to the insights that were revealed to us at the water ceremony. An interesting point about sharing our birth stories is the realization that so many birthkeepers seem to have complex mother/daughter wounds. Hello therapy! Amiright?


For our first workshop, we met with 7 month old Ndebele, her mother Awa, Ndebele’s maternal aunt and paternal aunt (badjenu). As the father’s sister, the Badjenu is almost like her brother’s representative/replacement in child care for the first few months of life. Because dad’s primary role is to financially support the family. But really the Badjenu plays this important role in their niblings’ lives for the rest of their lives. She is the second mother, confidant, mediator, etc. She also assists in any marital tension/issues that arises between her brother and sister in law. On this day, our Badjenu demonstrated a typical infant massage, which Ndebele delighted in. It consisted of movements that helped to strengthen the spine, enhance flexibility, tone muscles, and shape the body (hips, breasts, buttocks). We all had an interesting conversation about the need for breastfeeding support specialists in the US. The family was genuinely baffled that breastfeeding specialists are even a need in the United States. We tried our best to explain the factors that impact breastfeeding like time, access to resources, societal pressure, public judgement, work schedules, etc. But it was definitely an interesting cultural perspective that I didn’t think about until then.

Next we met with Fanm Saj (traditional midwife) Baty. She traveled 11 hours to be with us that day! Before she even proceeded with her presentation though, she made time to shower, change her clothes, offered her salat (prayers), and eat. In such a seemingly small way, this pause to handle her needs before presenting to us taught us the importance of taking care of ourselves even in the midst of servicing others. She taught us about the important herbs that are needed for postpartum healing and brought shea butter and massage oil to demonstrate postpartum massage. She used banana leaves soaked in a hot water tincture to begin her demonstration. A funny, and incredibly magical moment happened. Confused about having to demonstrate this massage on a large water bottle, she asked for a volunteer. One of our amazing participants agreed to be her subject. Little did we know that the volunteer would have to strip down completely naked, in front of a room full of 15 strangers. Charnise took it in stride and did what needed to be done. She laid on the table, awaiting instruction, and in the blink of an eye Baty jumped up on the table, straddled Charnise, and commenced to vigorously massaging her. It was almost like an instinctive dance between the two of them.


We then met with Marie who has been supporting families for 40 years. She is called a Badjenu Gox. Remember that Badjenu is auntie. And Gox means neighborhood. So she’s known as the neighborhood auntie or godmother, so to speak. Her role expands way past birth and postpartum. She’s also responsible for mediating issues among members of her community, arranging visits to the hospital, and negotiating payment for medical services. Fees for services are a huge barrier to receiving perinatal care, contraceptive care, and routine medical care. She is the fixer, the handler, the Olivia Pope of her town.

The Badjenu Gox are chosen by the people in her neighborhood and supported by government funding. It is an honor and a privilege to serve as one. What was also interesting was learning about the ways that the Badjenu Gox and the Traditional Midwives do and don’t work together, and how colonization and subsequent policies have significantly impacted that. Check this article out for some interesting facts about the 2010 origin of the Badjenu Gox in Senegal. If you really wanna nerd out on health/birth stats in Senegal, check this one out. This experience with Badjenu Marie was of course an exchange of resources and information, and so we had the opportunity to share with her what we do as birthworkers in the US. She said several times throughout her few hours with us, how proud she was of us. It was so affirming to hear, and incredibly humbling how generous she was with sharing her knowledge.


In the midst of this absolutely transformative experience, I celebrated my birthday! I actually had the pleasure of sharing birthday festivities with three other women in my cohort who had birthdays the same week. There was a local patisserie that sold the most delicious croissants, baguettes, and sugary confections. So a lil birthday cake for breakfast was only fitting. At the encouragement of one of my cohort buddies, we treated ourselves to a photoshoot with Mamy Photography and a spa day by the ocean. Best decision ever.


Towards the end of our time together, learning, reflecting, shedding ego and expectations, we engaged in a really fun activity. The plan was to explore the produce market in Somone, practice our language skills at the market by purchasing ingredients from the vendors, and develop a collective postpartum meal based on what was in season. With the help of our market Yaye (term of endearment and respect for an older woman) and Joyell, we decided to make couscous, stewed veggies, fried plantain, garden salad with homemade honey mustard dressing, and a tropical fruit salad featuring one of my favorite postpartum fruits, the Papaya. Just know that this meal was absolutely scrumptious!


On our second to last day, we traveled to Dakar for the day, spent some time on Goree Island, and visited a few other sites in Dakar. What I learned and felt on Goree island was both heavy and empowering. I’m still processing what we learned about the brutal history of the slave trade, seeing and feeling things when entering the slave dungeons, juxtaposed to the stunning coastal view of the ocean. The same ocean where old, weak, and rebellious enslaved people were carelessly tossed to die because they were deemed useless. We also had the opportunity to visit the local clinic on the island. We took a tour of the midwife’s office and the birthing room next door. Because of funding resources there were some deficits in the resources and equipment available to birthing people. So they refer many people, especially complex cases to birth at the hospital in Dakar, which is a 30 minute ferry ride away.



What I learned during Wombs of Wata has shaped me not only professionally but also personally. I learned the importance of introspection, deep diving into my sense of purpose, and engaging in routine self evaluation. I learned to surrender, listen to receive and not to react, and to call in patience. My journey to and time in Senegal reminded me of how unfair this world can be to the underprivileged, but also how much beauty, grace, and love exists to combat the dark. I’m always in awe of Black women/femmes and how brilliant and resourceful we are. I am reminded of how our softness is our strength. I am so honored to continue to do this work and to inspire and teach newer birthworkers. Thank you for taking the time to read my reflections. Feel free to reach out if you have questions/comments.

With much Love & Gratitude,

Doula Jo

Special recognition and thanks to the following:

Joyell Arvella

Shaconna Haley

Our incredible Wombs of Wata Cohort 2023

Interpreter: Kanur Raïssa Minkilane

Photographer and videographer: Mamy Hawa

Awa and baby Ndebele

Traditional Midwife: Baty Gueye

Badjenu Gox: Marie Thiane

What we should know about Endometriosis

Hey fam!

March is Endometriosis Awareness Month. Endo is a condition that, in the United States, affects 11% of people born with a uterus. That’s 6.5 million people nationwide! According to the World Health Organization, the stats are comparable globally, affecting about 10% of people born with a uterus.

First let’s start with, what the heck is endometriosis? The uterus is lined with something called endometrial tissue.  Each menstrual period, this tissue swells with blood and it eventually sheds. The body grows a new lining of endometrium with each menstrual cycle. Endometriosis is a disease where endometrial tissue grows outside of the uterus and on other areas of the body where it doesn’t belong. Endometriosis growths may swell and bleed in the same way the lining of the uterus does every month — during one’s menstrual period. Ouch! This can cause inflammation and incredible pain because the overgrown tissue actually swells and bleeds in an area of the body where there’s little to no room for it to grow and where the blood cannot shed out of the body. Imagine a swollen bloody growth on your stomach, liver, intestines, or ligaments.

In addition to debilitating pain and bleeding during and in between menstrual cycles, endometriosis can also cause pain during intercourse, GI issues, and most commonly infertility. How? Well, patches of endometriosis block off or actually change the shape of the pelvis and reproductive organs. This can make it harder for the sperm to find the egg. Endo also impacts the body’s immune response. Once fertilization occurs, the immune system, which normally helps defend the body against disease, may attack the embryo as a foreign entity.

Because Endo causes vague symptoms that present as other conditions, endometriosis is often misdiagnosed for YEARS. According to the organization Endo Black, “on average, it may take 6 to 10 years to be diagnosed. As for African American women and women of color, it may take 11 to 15 years for a diagnosis.”  It occurs in folks ages 15-40, whose menstrual cycle lasts longer than 7 days, and there is evidence that there is a genetic component. There are some non-surgical forms of treatment for Endometriosis like hormone based therapies, as well as surgical treatments such as laparoscopic excisions (removal) and ablations (heat blasted destruction, pyew pyew!).

Why is it important for you to know all of this? If you know and love someone who presents with some of these symptoms and/or whom has a family history of Endo, share this information with them. A confirmed diagnosis could be the key to resolving years/decades of life altering symptoms. I also want to call in more empathy for menstruating folks who have such painful and long lasting cycles, that their life literally stops for weeks at a time. 

This month we bring awareness to this debilitating disease, affecting millions of people worldwide, in the hopes that with more research we can find a definitive cause and cure for Endometriosis.  


In Gratitude and Solidarity,

Doula Jo

For more information visit the following sites for more education on Endometriosis.

Thank you! Luna Doula’s Year in Review

Hey Fam,

Today is my BIRTHDAAAY!! I thought what better way than to start off my day celebrating with you all. My amazing community! So please accept this month’s newsletter as a love letter of gratitude to all of you for your support, trust, and encouragement. I wanted to share how you all have impacted the work that I have done with Luna Doula this year, and some lessons learned that I will be taking with me into the new year.

This year, I was able to support 25 families, spanning birth, postpartum, end of life/grief support, and abortion support. Many of my families came by word of mouth from current Luna Doula families, friends, and colleagues, but some found me through internet searches for Black Doulas in the DMV area. How amazing! Through some generous donations over the last two years, I established the Mbusa Fund which enables me to provide discounted and pro bono support to families in need that cannot financially meet my sliding scale prices. Although I raised my prices this last quarter, I’ve worked hard to maintain accessibility with my sliding scale pricing. This year with the help of the Mbusa Fund, I provided two weeks of discounted overnight postpartum care for a family, pro bono abortion support for two families, and pro bono end-of-life consulting for another grieving family. We faced the overturn of Roe v. Wade which significantly impacted abortion support in addition to the quality of care during pregnancy loss and life-threatening situations for pregnant folks. With the help of thousands of educators, activists, and policymakers, I found myself engaging in resource coordination and educating folks on ways to navigate the changing laws and how to find the life saving support despite restrictive policies. Let’s keep our foot on their necks to ensure equal and just reproductive rights for all.

This year, I ventured into some fun and exciting projects, attended trainings to enhance my work, and was featured on some pretty dope media outlets. I was cast and performed in two plays this year. Both plays, Fences and King Hedley II, were written by acclaimed Black playwright the late August Wilson. What a fun and empowering experience. Thank you to my Doula families, friends, and family who came to see me perform and support the local community theatres in Bowie, MD and Alexandria, VA.

I expanded my birthing knowledge and attended the Spinning Babies training with my doula sistahs Brittany Martin and Leah Hairston. I also attended a two day grief symposium and learned more about how to offer grief support in creative, culturally affirming, and expansive ways. I also learned more about Haitian Postpartum traditions and care from midwife Barbara Verneus, which I was able to put to use with one of my postpartum families who requested a traditional Haitian Bain (postpartum herbal bath). As some of you know, I launched this Newsletter series in March, with the help of my Virtual Assistant Lisa Trinidad. This has been one of the most challenging yet rewarding ventures for me. Each and every one of you who have emailed, texted, and commented to share stories and continue conversations started in my newsletters, have been the fuel to keep me going. I hope you know how impactful you have been.

I had the distinct honor of being interviewed and featured in the Black Doula Project’s documentary about the importance of Black Doulas and how families have benefitted from the work of Black doulas. My work was also discussed in the Angry African Podcast featuring guest doula Leah Hairston. This episode also mentioned some dope local doulas Vanessa Hanible and Zaynab Aden, so I was in really great company.

The major lesson I learned this year is how to actually incorporate the rest that is so needed for this work to be sustainable and consistent. I took an intentional break from births these last three months, and focused on rest, postpartum support, and planning for next year. I’ve learned my limits and I’m enjoying establishing healthy boundaries to maintain them! For me, rest looked like more quality time with my parents, my siblings, and my niece. I’ve been able to make plans with friends, hike more, attend Black ass events, sleep, graduate to a new level of psychotherapy, learn some cool things about myself, incorporate more moving meditation into my weekly routine, and sleep. Did I mention sleep? Haha. Next year I am booked until May for births, with some flexibility to take on an extra birth each month. I am hoping to acquire some more educational materials for my prenatal education work, like Black and Brown infant dolls and a flexible life-sized pelvis with accompanying reproductive organs and surrounding organs/muscles. I’m also hoping to expand the reach of my End-of-Life consulting and grief support.

Mostly though I’m looking forward to keeping in touch with my Luna Doula families, helping new families, continued growth, and community partnerships. I learn so much from all of you. I thank you for your trust in my work, your sweet family updates, grateful for sharing in your joys and challenges, and bearing witness to the love you have ever so present in your lives. Wishing you all a lovely Holiday season, and a gentle, restful, and joyous New Year!

With love and gratitude,

Doula Jo

Postpartum Prep

Hey Fam!

How are yall doing in this new season? I know a few families have been hit with the tridemic of RSV, Flu, and Covid and I hope that you are all recovering quickly and gently. Thank you for the grace that you extended as I took a much needed hiatus from our newsletter in October. Ya girl was TIYAD! I hosted my family for my dad’s 82nd birthday, I was in Tati mode with my niece staying with me for a few weeks, my godchildren staying for a few days, I had intense rehearsals and was in a play for three weeks, and in the midst of all of this, I was still working

my full time hospice job in addition to my doula duties. All of these events and activities really invigorate me, but I have to do better at managing the timing of it all, within my control anyways. But now I’m back and ready to share some helpful tips on ways to prepare for postpartum, with a little twist.

Now remember what I always say, postpartum is forever. So when I say prepare for postpartum, I not only mean the typical one year after birth, I mean to include ways that help you prepare for the long-term effects of childbirth as well as logistics for a growing family. Let’s start with preparing physically. If it is within your means and insurance coverage, I recommend having a chiropractor and pelvic floor physical therapist on deck for your postpartum recovery. The birthing body changes as it helps to grow a baby, weight is distributed differently, bones and supporting muscles are stressed in different ways, and the function and use of the pelvic floor changes. Having chiropractic and pelvic floor PT care can help with urinary retention and incontinence, breathing, digestion, mobility, sleeping comfort, sexual comfort and pleasure, and much more. It doesn’t hurt to tap into these services during pregnancy as well.

Regarding vulva and perineal care postpartum, there are so many options out there. Discuss with your provider and/or doula, herbalist, natural healer if you have one. Some people prepare ahead of time a supply of “padsicles”, frozen witch hazel pads that provide soothing, cool relief. Others use a mixture of herbs for a sitz bath, full bath, or peri bottle wash to help promote healing and blood flow after a vaginal birth. Whether it’s a planned or unplanned cesearean birth, it’s always helpful to discuss c-section recovery support while you’re creating your birth plan. If you have stairs in your home, who will help you get the food and supplies that you need on other levels of the home? Who will help you bathe? Will you curb visitors for the first few weeks, or would you like to have company as soon as possible? Consider who you would like to have around as you recover, and who you trust to provide care, resources, physical/emotional support.

When it comes to establishing your support network, communication and flexibility are key. Identify one or two main people, have one or two back ups, and then have a conversation with them to make sure that everyone is on the same page regarding expectations and limitations. If you are partnered and/or have older children in the home, make sure to have open and direct conversations about the division of labor in the home as you and baby recover. If you have the means to, hire a postpartum doula, a nanny, house cleaning service. Lean on your community to help with food/grocery delivery, meal planning, and foods that promote healing, lactation, and energy. A pitfall that can often happen is that people assume folks will step up and step in, and when that doesn’t happen, resentment and tensions build. During pregnancy is also a great time to help prepare any older children for postpartum changes in routine, changes in your availability, and to identify a trusted support person to help with school pick ups or weekend activities. This all requires you to be intentional about building that “village”. Take a look back at my September Newsletter: How We Show Up, for suggestions on how to start that conversation.

For folks who work and have to navigate parental leave, you also have to consider how it impacts your finances. Some employers offer paid leave, while others do not. You’ll have to balance and negotiate your savings with how much time you are able to take off. Some parents are able to stagger parental leave for at least the first 6 months. Some have family members come for extended stays so that one of the parents can save their parental leave for a few weeks/months down the line. There’s FMLA, short term disability, saving up on vacation and sick leave; ask your colleagues how they planned theirs out, meet with a trusted HR rep to strategize. If you work for yourself, you might want to do this well in advance so that you have time to come up with other contingencies in case a part of the plan doesn’t work out. With the limitations of legislation and systemic allowances, we gotta get creative with how we plan for infant care and postpartum recovery support.

Mental health is a component of postpartum recovery that can be overlooked but is so important to consider and assess, for both the birthing parent and non-gestational parent. If you’ve had difficulty with coping or mental health concerns in the past, it might be helpful to speak with your provider about ways to prepare support in the event that Baby Blues (which typically lasts about 2 weeks) turn into something prolonged and debilitating. There are assessments that your provider can guide you through to determine the scope of your coping challenges, and they may even be able to help you identify mental health providers and therapists that specialize in postpartum mood issues. In addition to postpartum depression, we’re learning a lot more about postpartum anxiety, rage, and psychosis. Important to note that non-gestational parents can also experience postpartum mental health challenges, due to a significant life change, lack of sleep, changes in relationship/parenting dynamics, etc.

Lastly, my work as an end-of-life social worker allows me the skills and perspective to discuss emergency planning with my families. Because historically marginalized communities have not had access to certain wealth building and financial security resources, many of us in these communities are not privy to the ways that we can protect our families in the event of an emergency. In the event that one or both parents become incapacitated or dies, here are some things to consider. Designate guardians for your children. Be explicit, intentional, and communicative about this decision. You want to make sure that all parties are informed and on board, and you want to revisit this decision every few years. If you have life insurance, find out about setting up a life insurance trust so that your child(ren) may have access once they become adults. The rules differ state to state. If you can, work with an Estate Planning Attorney to develop a Will, a trust, and durable power of attorney. These documents are also things that you want to revisit every few years and change accordingly. If you live in MD, there is a free online resource where you can establish a health care decision maker and detail your health care decisions. All you need are two witnesses and a notary and it is an officially recognized legal document. While these are very difficult conversations to have, contemplating our own death, completing these documents can help to establish a comfortable future for your family in the unfortunate circumstance that you are no longer here.

Postpartum is forever. When you work with me, you’ll have access to an emergency plan template and an array of community resources. If you didn’t have a chance to do all this planning during your pregnancy or even for the first few months of your postpartum journey, that’s ok. As the years go by and your family grows, there is always opportunity to:

Establish a support network and secondary guardians for your children,
Plan for extended work leave and manage finances to accommodate time off
Work with a Doula
Seek mental health support
Create a will & Advanced Directive
Apply for life insurance
Set up appointments with the various healing professionals.

What’s most important is that you recognize there is a life long need for postpartum support. We learn to care for ourselves by allowing others to care for us. Are there any other ways that you’ve prepared for your postpartum journey? I’d love to hear more!

With gratitude,

Doula Jo

How We Show Up

Hey Fam!

How do we build that village and foster relationships that carry us through the hills and valleys of life? Our concept of community and showing up for each other has shifted in recent decades. We’re either too overwhelmed with our own lives, uncomfortable with other people’s discomfort, lack adequate boundaries, or just unaware of social norms that prevent us from genuinely being there. I’ve seen the ways that individuals and families are left feeling isolated and even abandoned by the people they thought would be their biggest support. A part of that though, is knowing how to ask for what we need. That takes vulnerability and courage. So, let’s get into it, shall we?

Best place to start is to ask. If you don’t know *how* to be there for someone, just ask. That opens the door for the person in need, to really think about what would work for them. “How can I best support you in this moment?” or “What would be the most helpful way to support you?”. I know, I know, it sounds a bit corny. But hey, if you can’t be a lil corny and cheesy (mmm corn and cheese!) with those you care about, then what’s the point? Sometimes the person in need doesn’t know what would be helpful. So be ready to make a suggestion or two, careful not to overwhelm them with options. “I’m making some goat and roti for dinner, can I bring you a plate?”, “I’m heading to the grocery store, can I pick anything up for you?”. If after offering, they decline your help, then let them know that you are ready and willing, free of judgement when they are ready to reach out. If they cross your mind randomly, reach out and let them know. Let a few weeks pass and then check in again about ways that you can support. Ultimately people want to know that they haven’t been forgotten after a life changing event has passed. They want to know that someone is keeping them in mind, and that they have at least one or a few people who they can call on when their head is above water and they have a clearer idea of what kind of support they need. But of course, if they’ve asked for some time to themselves, give em time. That, too, is a gift.

Now, as a recovering people pleaser (anxious attachments unite!), I cannot stress how important it is to establish healthy boundaries as the giver AND receiver. “No” or “not right now” is a complete answer. If someone is overstepping your boundaries and smothering you with offers to help, it may take a bit more energy to let them know your limits, but it is okay to ask for some space before they reach out again. I like the good ol’ compliment sandwich approach. “You have been so gracious in your offer to help. I am feeling overwhelmed at this time. I hold you in my heart and look forward to reaching out to you in a few weeks.” If you absolutely do not have the capacity to be the support that someone needs, you can express your love for them, regret that you cannot show up in the way that they need, but that you can offer whatever is within your capacity. It really is all about communication and having some initially uncomfortable conversations, but ultimately honest and heartfelt conversations.

Let’s get into some specific examples from my line of work. We do not handle death well as a society. It’s uncomfortable, it’s scary, and it brings up some hard emotions. When someone you know is grieving (whether that’s the loss of an elder or the loss of a baby), what’s most important to keep in mind is that eventually the calls stop, the sympathy cards peter out, the casseroles stop coming. One of the most compassionate things you can do, is check in a few weeks/months after the death. If this person is really close to you, take note of the death anniversary and try to reach out, take on an errand, or do something nice for them around that time. Say the deceased loved one’s name, and share a fond memory you have of them or a way that they may have impacted your own life. Find out if there are any cultural grief practices that would be meaningful to them (repast, sitting Shiva, military commemoration, etc). Also significant to note that someone can be grieving a loss other than a death (divorce, unemployment, friendship, physical ability).

As someone prepares to give birth, they may want some help getting the home set up and ready for baby. You can offer to wash baby’s clothes, fold, and organize them. You can offer to wash and sanitize baby bottles/pump parts. Perhaps, with their input, you can help to start a meal train for them so that they have prepared meals for the week leading up to the birth, and for the few weeks postpartum. Could they use a light housecleaning or a deep clean? You can offer it yourself or offer to pay for a service. Gift them a birth/postpartum doula (wink wink)! During postpartum, you can offer to do all of these things as well; the laundry, dishes, meals, cleaning, etc. Don’t just come over and fawn over baby. Ask and genuinely listen to how the birthing person and their partner are doing and coping. If there are other children in the home, can you babysit or take them for a day or more to help lighten the parenting load. Parents with a newborn need adult time too, so feel free to talk about things other than the children.

In general for anyone going through a life transition or celebrating something, a greeting card, a gift card, a meal, and offering your time and skills in any capacity, go a long way. Establish and maintain those boundaries so that you can show up as your full, best selves. And if folks haven’t stepped up in the way that you expected, ask if they have the capacity to help and then, if so, ask for what you need. Looking forward to hearing your feedback, as always. This is such a dope community!


Doula Jo

This Newsletter was inspired by a book I read last year, of the same title,

“How We Show Up” by Mia Birdsong. Brilliant read!